I really had quite a difficult spell over December/January. I find this time of year really hard. Work starts to pick up from about September and in December it is crazy – insane stuff.
I do my utmost not to urinate at work, as I don’t actually have the time – no really, I have unbelievable bladder control. I am in print and production and it seems like every year our clients are shocked and stunned that Christmas will fall on the 25th of December.
Every year it is this chaotic rush around and it builds to a fever pitch as the 25th approaches. It is so stressful and I am pushed further than I am willing to go. Every year the schools my kids attend, plans an end-of-year something, so I am flying around trying to attend all these things at more than one school. Add to that your own company end of year function, your department end of year function, your must see friends before end of year, and basically that leaves you with about two hours free on the 17th December sometime between 2 and 4 in the morning. It is absolutely certifiable i n s a n e!!
My son also has a birthday in December so that only adds to the pressure. It’s the planning, booking a venue, the invitation, the annoying parents who do not RSVP. These really pip me over the edge. So I never know if they are coming or will just arrive, so I start catering and planning for “possible children.” <double scream> Several times I have had kids arrive whose parents did not RSVP – this is not a totally rare occurence.
Then my absolute favourite – Christmas shopping. I end up having to do it on the 22 – 24th, as it is the only time I have!! I end up dragging kids through shopping centres. Usually the combination of my frayed nerves and the sound of Mariah Carey doing what ever Christmas warble she has thrown together this year, is unfortunately enough to take what ever HO out of the ho-ho-ho christmas jollies for me.
This year was EXTRA special. I was dealing with “being-abandoned-by-my-maid-who-was-filling-in-for-my-actual-maid, as-my-actual-maid was-home-in-Zimababwe-for-the-holidays” situation. Suffice to say I was one Valium short of a full nervous breakdown.
This set of circumstances pushed me into an entirely new sphere of off-the-hinges behaviour. It even shocked me a bit.
In the first week of January I stood in my house trying to assess my situation whilst Isabelle was firmly attached to my left hip, with my hair tightly entwined around her mucus incrusted chubby little fingers, which she was rhythmically pulling. I had stopped feeling the pain of my hair being pulled from the roots, as my mind had already left “the place where it is sane” and had started shopping in the crazy aisle.
I was standing there and realized that:-
1. The dust blowing in from our destroyed garden is doing my head in. No matter how many times I wiped a surface, it is black with dust 10 minutes later. And I really am not a neat freak, but this black grit on the toilet and every other surface was really doing me in.
2. The dog is scratching because she needs Frontline and I have not had a chance to get to the vet to buy it. Every time she scratches a little bit more of my sanity vacates, as I picture the fleas jumping off her and on to my children.
3. Georgia is deciding now is a good time to empty her toy boxes all over her room (see earlier note regarding no maid)
4 Connor is arguing with me about everything and right now, I really need a large glass of wine, a long lie down time and to be left alone.
5 To really crown it all Kennith is on a business trip to China, so I am not going to be getting any help for a good seven days at the least. That might have been the deal breaker right there.
6 I feel like am this awful mother as I am not coping with my kids with my house, and my inability to have a chance to shower or put my contact lenses in are doing nothing for my sense of morale.
When all of those pieces started to come together and make a Rorschach pattern of my life, what was left of my little brain just went “pop!”
I lost it …… totally off the rails stuff. Its the one where one minute you are fine and then **poof** it’s over.
I grabbed Connor and Georgia and banished them to their rooms and told them that today is “throwing away toys day” and clean up room day. And no one comes out of their rooms until toys are sorted and rooms cleaned. I might have been shrieking like a fish wife at this point – actually guaranteed.
Of course I am doing this with crazy hair, eyes a little too wide open behind smudged glasses, and no doubt spittle being emitted from the corners of my mouth. It really could not have gone much worse.
Isabelle was crying as she was no longer on my hip. Georgia started to cry because I forced her to start throwing away her toys and I was screaming. Connor started to cry because he could not watch the television programme he wanted to, and he realised mom was going suicidal on him …… and really I wanted to cry, but I screamed instead.
I decided to keep this up for about three hours. Then I was exhausted, my nerves were raw, and I was sure that I was going to kill someone. It really was just a case of where to bury the bodies.
Once the toys had been sorted - which as you guessed it, I ended up doing in my now rather manic episode. Once everyone stopped crying and sniffling, I threw them in the car and we went down to McBadFood for a nutritious meal and a crappy toy!
I do not know why I get myself in to this state. If Kennith is left with the kids, you would find him lying on the couch watching his favourite show, and occasionally scratching his scrotum for some light relief.
Isabelle would be in her cot, having the longest afternoon sleep of her life. Georgia and Connor would be in the television room, high on too much Oros, and happily watching Cartoon Network, while their brain cells died one cell at a time.
Sure the house would look like a scene from CSI. The one where you really hope that this is the episode where someone murders Horatio Caine for his annoying mannerisms, and quirks. The thing about him is that he has to pause, remove his glasses and say something completely redundant to anyone with half a brain. For example, standing over a drowned person – takes off sunglasses and looks at nothing in particular and says : ” This person wasn’t just drowned… they were killed.” However I digress …
Kennith somehow is able to manage our children and our house without getting himself in a total state. Part of his tactic is to totally ignore the state of the house, and do make the kids what ever is the easiest for him.
Me, I am afraid of being left alone with my house and my kids without some sort of domestic help to intervene. I do worry that one day Kennith is going to come home to find that I have run away, or there are dead bodies strewn over the just washed white tiles.
But for now I take deep breathes, and try to find my happy place …. and pray that December stays far far away from me right now.