The strange things about blogging and belonging to forums, is that it introduces you to a world of people you may not have had the good fortune to meet through any other route.
Through the powers of words, you start to connect with others. You start to recognise soul-connections in other people – for what ever reason. They might live down the road or on the other side of the world, it really does not matter.
It is something about them that resonates with you, and you feel a connection to them and their world.
A while ago I had the good fortunate to befriend Lisa-Marie through blogging and we have remained in touch via a host of routes.
You know when you meet a “nice” person. Someone who is truly just a good person, but is being faced with all the hurt and the pain that is the “I want a child, but for what ever reason we cannot have one.”
And how your heart just dies a little for them each time they take a knock.
Lisa and her partner Travers are those people.
The great thing about Lisa is that she is not one of those shiny-happy-nice (slightly annoying) people. She is a nice people who still screams and rants and swears at the thunder, and sometimes just wants to throw it all away to go and travel and discover new countries and say “just fek it all”.
A while ago they made the difficult decision (and it is hard) to look at adoption as another possible route on their journey. No doubt what ever they had gone through and maybe some of their experiences had led them to this as an option.
It is a difficult decision, no matter who you are or what your background, to decide that maybe the path you have walked for so long, is maybe not the path that is going to get you to your destination.
You scream and cry at the unfairness of it all. Curse all who can be cursed, that what you have done and sacrificed for so long is just not working. And you then decide to change course on your ship to motherhood, which must come with it’s own share of pain and heart-ache.
I was thrilled that Lisa had ventured into this as an option. But I ached for her, and was worried that maybe a new waiting game was going to begin – maybe she will be faced with further hardships on this new path.
But sometimes life … not often … life is not a sack of shite, and sometimes, just sometimes, it allows the good stuff to rain on the good people.
Last week Lisa and Travers got the call and today …. today …. today their beautiful Isabella Helen is being born and they get to meet their daughter for the first time.
You know when you get to cry for happiness for someone else … someone who you have never met … but you feel you are connected in so many ways?
Today is that day …. yay a thousand times over for Lisa and Travers who get to become parents T O D A Y !!