Have dress … have prince … need chariot …

For some reason I have kept my “wedding related” stuff off my blog.

I just figured people really were not interested in my arranging to get a “rok” to bounce down the aisle, but it seems there are people who are actually interested.

Not sure why I felt it was appropriate to talk about me wanting to smother my kids and show you pictures of my va-jay-jay, but somehow inappropriate to talk wedding stuff, but there we go.  However I have decided to update those who care with bits and bobs, and I promise not to go on at length regarding the colour of just the right napkin.

Today I went to do the first fitting for my wedding dress, with the dress maker to do the nip and tucking.

I honestly thought I would be the last person to use the term “wedding dress” and “my” in a sentence, but well wonders never cease. I must confess I thought I looked not half bad (yes, I realise I need to slow down on the self praise) and really started to get very excited.  The alteration girl did have her hand up my dress at the time, and no doubt that also added to the whole festival atmospher

The one issue I have about “the wedding day” is I hate to be the center of attention.

I really get embarrassed and start acting terribly stupid when attention is focussed on me.  I am seriously doubting that wearing a large whitish dress is going to assist me to fade into the background in July, and I have concerns about everyone looking at me, which is probably why I wanted to go with a dress that was pretty low-key to being with.

But I truly love my dress, and feel very Princess Bride right now.  I might start singing tra-la-la-la and have little blue birds come and sit on my hand as I bounce around the forest with a large blue bow in my hair …. it is all so intoxicating.

Our friend put us in contact with a jewellery designer who assisted us in designing a ring.  She gave us a few catalogues and of the 7 thousand post-it notes I stuck all over the catalogues, on one I wrote “the perfect ring.”

I got myself in a tizz trying to make any further decisions about the ring.  I just could not decide on what to do and how to make a final decision on something that is so permanent.  Eventually I walked away from the “project” and asked/told/screamed at Kennith to just do it.  I just could not make a decision and time was a-passing and I still u’ming and ah’ing and time he was rushing by.

Friday a week ago Kennith got the ring and did not tell me.  He presented the ring while we were at a pub, drinking beer, watching Bafana Bafana – that boy is so romantic.  I swooned. I nearly lost control of my beer.  The ring is so absolutely divine, I can honestly say “I love it -I love it!”

Yesterday I went to collect the wedding band, and my knees went a little weak.

I was so sure that Kennith would choose something flat and plain- like a wedding band, but he chose this beautifully simple, but totally unique band with such great detail, I just wanted to give him a noddy badge right there and then.  I love the fact that he still suprises me, and makes the effort to try.

So I am really pleased with my dress, I look like a totally fairy princess which is nothing like the normal me.

I am so in love with my engagement ring and wedding band (which we put away) that I could cry.

You know I was the first one to say that getting married would not make a difference and really would not be a big deal, but you know it has made a difference and it is actually a big deal.  I am so excited about the wedding day I could actually just platz, but I am trying to act nonchalant and that it is all so ho-hum.

But inside I am going weeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee ……. can you feel it??

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  1. Kristin

     /  July 2, 2010

    I am so glad that you are enjoying this. It is afterall only once in a lifetime and it is your big day. I remember being the same. I was one of those girls that DIDN’T dream about my wedding day and ring and and and. I always thought it wasn’t important. And I actually think that makes it more fun. If you’ve had everything planned out since you were like 5 years old then what is there left to do when the wedding actually comes along?

    Anyway rambling.

    Please post LOADS of photos!

    • reluctantmom

       /  July 2, 2010

      Thanks, I am probably more excited about the pictures than anything else … yes, I am not a girly girl, so this girly-girl explosion in me has come as a bit of a surprise …

  2. mums-love

     /  June 24, 2010

    IM TOO EXCITED FOR YOU! Hey, so your dress arrived in one piece! 🙂 wonderful!!! Lol your Kennith sure is romantic! haha!

    I think im as eager as everyone else to see pictures of THE DAY!!! wow!

    AND YES, you should very much keep us all updated as we dont want a random ‘im a mrs’ post all of a sudden and be caught off our chairs! lol

  3. ttcnot2easy

     /  June 24, 2010

    oh you simply MUST keep us posted on your wedding plans! i looooove to read about them! I’m really excited about seeing the pics too – I am sure you’re going to be such a gorgeous bride!!!

  4. I have missed the wedding updates 🙂

    So glad you like your dress!!!!! Its going to an awesome day!

  5. the friend that made you do it

     /  June 23, 2010

    Am so excited for you, just so sorry that we won’t be there to witness all the intricate details that I have absolutely no doubt you have put in. BTW, love the new look of your blog. Family pics are simply divine, same photographer doing your wedding pics?

  6. Hilary

     /  June 23, 2010

    🙂 Yes I can feel it and in 3.5 weeks it will BE HERE! Waiting on pics of the rings – whenever you’re ready to share…

    • reluctantmom

       /  June 23, 2010

      Will do photo tonight – but you know the flash reflecting off the GIANT diamond is just turning into a challenging photoshoot – will post soonest!!

  7. Oh I can feel it! Enjoy it!

  8. I can hear it!

    BUT – where is the ring – we want to see! Well, I do.

    There is something very exciting about organising a wedding – even when you’re big like us. I organised our’s 4 yrs ago with 2 kids in tow – and it was a wonderful day. And my husband still continues to surprise me (with good things too).

  9. Wenchy

     /  June 23, 2010

    Makes me wish it was me!!!!!


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