The giving and the receiving …

Talk about a class-A stuff up.

Kennith and I finally sat on Monday night and opened our lovely wedding gifts.  We had snacks and wine and it was all a very genteel affair.  We opened cards, read them, smiled, I cried a little and then we opened the presents and jotted down the person’s name and the gift so I could send a thank you card/note/email/sms.

We gasped and gushed and said things like “Isn’t that lovely” “How thoughtful of so and so” “Wow, what a great gift.”

At the end of it all, there was a lone card lying on the floor which I picked up and read.  It was from my friend Judith and her husband Al.

Okay, here is where my eyebrow raised – if I am reading the card that clearly appears to be connected to a present, but there is no present, then either a present has gone missing or …. shit something has been swapped.  But that is fine, just need to ask Judith.

Note to self, phone Judith and ask in my most polite voice what they gifted us.  Awkward but will need to ask and then the issue will be resolved.

Tuesday night, a thought comes to me – strange I do not recall seeing Dave and Alice’s present.

Alice is a serial gift-giver and a very good giver, so it is odd that she did not gift us.

I was having an Emily Post moment of whether I should leave it or ask Alice, because clearly I am missing her damn gift.

The problem was that when the reception was over, Kennith and I were going to a guest house and with all the stuff already in the car, could not take anything.  We grabbed 4 sets of friends, gave them our presents, which they took home.  They in turn got them all dropped off at our house while we were away on honeymoon.

Wednesday night, I am on my way to bookclub with Alice.  I think, let me just ask her – so I did in the most polite-does-not-really-matter-if-you-did-not-buy-us-a-gift-but-by-the-way-did-you-buy-us-a-gift manner.  Alice is horrified – because she did buy us/me a gift.  And then goes on to explain what it was.

I recall it fondly as it was the first gift we opened, but on it was a card from Bernard and Julie, and I said all sorts of great things about the gift – so then clearly I am thinking well where is Bernard and Julie’s gift – and besides where, what is Bernard and Julie’s gift.

Shit, now we have a problem, because nothing NOTHING that I have listed as being from anyone is probably from them, and I am not sure about anything.

I thought of doing this two ways.  Sending out thank you cards next week saying “Thanks for the stuff/thing you chose for us – we love it – it is just want we wanted – we will treasure it forever!”

Or using my blog as a vehicle (thanks for the idea Joan) to dig myself out of this rather awkward moment.

So here’s the thing, if you were kind/generous/present enough to kindly bring us a wonderful gift on the 17 July 2010, is there anyway you can drop me a note and tell me what it was?

I really am struggling here as this is all beyond awkward.  I really want to avoid the awkwardness of saying “thank you” when I truly have no idea what I am saying thank you for.

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  1. Oh man, I remember this well, it happened to us some 18yrs ago…and I am sorry to say that everyone got a generic kinda thank you note from us…but then again we didnt have blogs back in them dark ages….!

    Btw – what I do now is I wrap the card INSIDE my gift – that way it never gets separated. Works very well. 🙂

  2. Celeste, this sounds so familiar. 10 years on some gifts are still not accounted as who gave what. We had the right amount of gifts but a lot of loose cards and pressies without cards. Hence, these days I wrap cards inside gifts!

    • Tania

       /  July 30, 2010

      that is clever! kids gifts should also be done that way… we always battle to match card with gifts and that is before our kids get hold of their own gifts!!!!

      • reluctantmom

         /  July 30, 2010

        We always open gifts for kids the day after their birthday, once the sugar is out of their system. It is great as it is all controlled, and the kids get another day to celebrate.

        Also because they are not so hyped – we can usually pack 3/4 of the gifts away and they get them slowly over a 6 month period.

  3. reluctantmom

     /  July 30, 2010

    I can’t tell you how embarrassed I feel right now having to ask …. geez, dying a little over here!!!

  4. You are handling this very well into asking everyone to send an email saying what they got you two. Hope you get this resolved soon.


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