Today is a GREAT day …

Today our friends, Joyce and Leon, collect their baby daughter Kirsten.  They pick her up, hold her close, breath her in, strap her in her car seat (this might take 45 minutes) and bring her home for the first time. 

Today is THAT day, the one they have been waiting for. 

Kirsten has been with a kangaroo care-mom for 60 days, and today that 60 days is up – it has been the longest 60 days, but it is over and now it is day 1!

Joyce, Leon and Kirsten, today is your day!  Enjoy every juicy squishy milk-smelling moment.

I saw this quotation and it made me have a good cry

Not flesh of my flesh, Nor bone of my bone,
But still miraculously my own.
Never forget for a single minute,
You didn’t grow under my heart – but in it.

Fleur Conkling Heylinger

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24 Comments

  1. How wonderful! Savour every new moment. I love that quote & so relate to it. I have my own biological children & 11 that grew in my heart. Every one is a miracle & a blessing from God. I am truly rich.

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  2. Sharon

     /  April 22, 2011

    So very happy for Joyce & Leon & precious baby Kirsten! The 60 days is the worst kind of torture imaginable, I thought ours would never end.
    P.S. the poem quoted is the same one on the cover of our adoption profile!

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  3. Mandi Earl

     /  April 22, 2011

    Wow, congratulations again to you both! Kirsten is so sweet and gorgeous! You make a beautiful family!

    Wishing you loads and loads of joy and happiness and of course, many precious memories!

    Lots of love,
    Ronnie, Mandi, Luke & Jamie xxx

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  4. charne

     /  April 21, 2011

    A real “aaaaaaaah” moment. She is beautiful……………………….

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  5. Wow, she’s absolutely beautiful. What a gorgeous family! Congratulations to them, so exciting! 🙂

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  6. Joyce

     /  April 21, 2011

    Hey Celeste, nevermind taking 45 minutes strapping her into her car seat, it took 45 minutes to put a new baby grow on after her bath!

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  7. Jacqui

     /  April 21, 2011

    Oh man she’s gorgeous. Love the hair. Such an emotional post. Enjoy her.

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  8. Liezel Kotze

     /  April 21, 2011

    What a beautiful quote Celeste and thank you for making me sob ….. again!!!

    Joycie and Leon our hearts and thoughts were with you during the last 60 days but finally this wonderful day has arrived.

    We can’t wait to share in the happiness and love you as a family will experience!!

    Little Kirsten is a lucky girl for having such kick-ass parents.

    Lots of love
    Liez & Bas

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  9. Steven Brokensha

     /  April 21, 2011

    Congratulations, Guys! And well done, Kirsten, on having such discerning taste in parents! We can’t wait to meet you. . .!
    Love from Steve and Rags x o x o x

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  10. Joyce

     /  April 21, 2011

    How unbelievably sweet, Celeste, and thanks guys for all the lovely messages!!!! Our bundle of joy is fast asleep, arms above the head and sucking her dummy, still dressed in her gorgeous all white Keedo outifit which Keedo sponsors for the placement day. I can’t believe how very very blessed we are… we can’t stop staring at our little miracle! Our dream has finally come true!

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  11. Oupa Hein

     /  April 21, 2011

    Joyce, Leon and Kirsten this must have been the longest wait ever, but we are so glad it is over and you can start your wonderful relationship with your beautiful daughter. This day, 21 April, you will celebrate each year and give thanks for this wonderful bundle of joy forever. Much Love Lucille and Hein

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  12. Alison Boruchowitz

     /  April 21, 2011

    I’ve normally not overly soppy (ok maybe I am) but I have tears of joy for the three of you ! Sixty days of waiting, always remembering that things come to those that wait.
    You both look so comfortable with Kirsten, and it really was meant to be.
    You are going to make awesome parents. Now buckle up and enjoy the ride !
    Love Leonard, Alison and Ethan

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  13. sanelle

     /  April 21, 2011

    Joyce and Leon, we are so happy with you!!! What a beautiful girl, I am sure she has crept into your heart already. Enjoy her, and love her, she is yours!!

    Much love, Grant and Sanelle

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  14. Tanya

     /  April 21, 2011

    Joyce & Leon – trying not to let people see me crying at my desk!!! 🙂 Happy days – enjoy, love to you both – I can babysit!!

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  15. To Love Bella

     /  April 21, 2011

    Dear Leon & Joyce, Flippity Flop – I am SOOOOO happy and SOOOOO excited for you! Such a beautiful experience. What a special day. I have not stopped thinking about the pair of you and have been counting sleeps from my side too.
    Enjoy every single precious moment, because they go by very quickly.
    Wishing you nothing but pure love and happiness with this little Treasure who has joined your lives.
    Much love,
    Travers, Lisa-Marie and Isabella (sister-in-adoption!) 🙂
    xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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  16. Elsbeth & Seth

     /  April 21, 2011

    Joyce, Leon & Kirsten

    We are both there in spirit – give little Kirsten a long hug from the people of the South.

    You deserve all this happiness; AND you have made it through the 60 days!!!!!!! YIPPEE!!

    Lots of love from Elseth & Seth

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  17. Countess Kaz

     /  April 21, 2011

    I love this post. so happy for the couple. what an awesome momentous day in their lives.

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  18. Kennith

     /  April 21, 2011

    Today is a GREAT day!!! We are all so excited!

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  19. Oh my, what a happy moment!

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  20. I would love to know more of the story here. What exactly is a Kangaroo care mom. Did she birth the baby as well?
    Stunning photosd!

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    • reluctantmom

       /  April 21, 2011

      The birth mom who has carried the baby meets with a social worker when she is going through the process of deciding to give her child up for adoption.

      In this case, the birth mother (I am not sure of a more correct term right now) chose J&L profile from a selection of profiles. The birth mom gets information about the adoptive parents, but the adoptive parents do not really get much information about the birth mom. Their identities are all kept confidential (depending on the adoption process one agrees to I would imagine.)

      Birth mother receives counselling to ensure that she is comfortable that this is what she is wanting to do (though no doubt it is no less painful for her). Baby is born, J&L were informed, but were not permitted to see the baby. Once mom is discharged from hospital, the baby goes to a Kangaroo Mom and birth mom goes hom to heal.

      A KM is a person who stands in, to care and love the child during the 60-day-wait. Legally a mom receives additional counselling and is allowed a “cooling off period” of 60 days where she may/might decide that her original decision to give up her child was done in haste/or for what ever reason and can change the decision.

      Only after “the 60 day wait” is the baby permitted to be given to the “adoptive parents” – however this is done as a formal legal hand over – the court is involved and papers are signed – and at that point the (birth) mother gives up her legal right to the child (so today must also be a very difficult day for her).

      The child then goes to the “adoptive parents” and she is then in thier “care custody”. At that point an adoptive commitee meets soon after, and make a final ruling on the adoption, and either approve it which will mean it can go to court and become “a legal adoption” which then takes a few months to move through the courts (I think 6 – 8 is average), or if they feel that something is not “right” regarding the adoption, they might request another process or what ever, which may impact on timing.

      Kangaroo parents are people who donate thier time and care for a newborn baby until 60 days in thier home as if was their child. They then give up that child to the adoptive parents at 60 days. It really is one of the many selfless acts that occurs in the process of adoption, and they also become emotionally connected to the child, so as much as this is a happy day for the KP because they are happy that the child now goes to caring loving parents, the pain for them must also be acute.

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  21. That really made me well up. It must have been such a joyous and heart warming moment to bring Kirsten home. All the best wishes to them!

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  22. Sue

     /  April 21, 2011

    I can’t even IMAGINE what they must be feeling! This is such an incredible day. Can’t wait to meet the little Princess. xx

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  23. Dave D'Aguiar

     /  April 21, 2011

    Joyce and Leon, what can I say! Little Kirsten could not have hoped for a better family to move in with. I know how long these sixty days have felt for me, I can not imagine the toll it must have taken on you! Now ENJOY!
    Lot’s of hugs and kisses from Dave, Alice, Peter and Mia!

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