Once we have got past the party in a cellophane wrapper that Depression and Anxiety Disorder is, it really is something I would be reluctant to wish on nearly just about everyone.
It’s not like a broken leg where you have a cast and the cool kids sign, and in 6 – 8 weeks you can take it off and that is you good to go.
Unfortunately it is bit like diarrhea.
It strikes you usually in the middle of the night. You spend quite a bit of time in the bathroom wondering if you will survive this.
When the sun rises you still have shit coming out of every orifice, and it is such an unattractive process you really do not want to post it on your status update. You do not want everyone to know that you are making skid marks in your panties, and more importantly you have no idea where you got this bug from, and how long it is going to hang around for. So instead you make jokes about “feeling a bit off colour” …..
So enough about me and the simile that is depression and diarrhea.
I really “fear” for my children. I worry that they will not inherent my good hair and nail genes, but instead will be the proud new owners of full scale depression and anxiety disorder.
Can I prevent it in some way? Sadly no. Can I worry and stress about it? Worry is my middle name. Actually it is Lucille, but you know what I mean.
I worry about all of them. I worry about Connor the most, he is so sensitive and has always been an “old soul” – he got really upset when he found out about what happened to Jesus around Easter time.
Connor was at a Roman Catholic school when he was young. Great school, they were quite into Hail Marys and Our Fathers though. I was willing to over look my discrepancies with the trinity because I liked the school.
The first year Connor was there they taught the usual run up to Easter. I fetch Connor from school and he is sobbing. Like crocodile tears with snot.
He gets in the car and goes: “Why, why, why did they kill Jesus?!” and bursts in to tears.
That really was one of the first, of several signs that Connor just took too much from a situation.
Connor gets very upset if we are upset. Not because he is in trouble, but he gets upset if we are upset.
If we are sad, Connor is desperately sad.
It is like his boundaries of what are his feelings versus the feelings that belong to another person are a bit hazy. Sound familiar?
The reason I am raising this issue today is that Connor has been struggling with stomach cramps for a few days.
Stomach cramps and me, have a very close relationship. I have so much buscopan, levispas, bevispan, and anything else you can get on a script or if you cry loud enough at an all-night pharmacy – doubling over and crying like a 3 year old, can sometimes prove quite effective.
I started my IBS relationship in about 1994.
It was there before, but 1994 was my first big person job, and with my first big person job came IBS for 3 – 7 days per month. For years I thought it was menstruation cycle link — fraid not.
Connor’s complaining about cramping makes me worry he has the first signs of IBS. I worry he has the first signs of IBS. I worry that IBS is a pre-cursor for signs of depression.
My (other/too many to number) concern is that taking Connor to a psyciatrist/psychologist to have been assessed for depression/anxiety disorder, will add as a catalyst to depression … I know that sounds unreasonable, but there it is.