I realised recently that in my mind I have a very particular way that I would like things to occur after I died — when ever that may be.
The problem with this plan, is I won’t be there, so I thought it might be good to put some information out there – so that way there will be no confusion about how things go.
I want to be cremated – I am fine with organ donation. If I am not using it, and someone else will get be able to live a better life with my bits, then they are welcome to them.
I do not want to live on life support – I do not want to be resuscitated if my quality of life requires me to be hooked up to a mechanical system which breaths, and makes my heart beat. If I was alive and unable to do it for myself I would like to be offered the “assisted death” route – so if I am unable to communicate, lets work out an eye blink system or a hand squeeze system.
I do not want my cremation remains to be buried or put somewhere where my children, and family will feel an obligation to visit and bring flowers to.
I really do not like that idea, and when I die I would like to be gone, and my family not to feel an obligation to a 1 metre x 1 metre square piece of land somewhere.
I’d like my remains spread around a wine farm – or several – seems the right place! That way if you are going to visit me, you will be visiting me with a large glass in hand and will need to do a bit of a tour of a few wine estates at the same time.
I really do not want a religious ceremony. I do think that these occassions are for the living, and for them to find solace and to give them closure. I would like something very much like the format we were married with – relaxed, people drinking wine, eating snacks and being happy, or at the very least telling really tacky jokes about death.
My take on faith and religion, and the after life may well change as time goes by. At the moment I am not comfortable with the idea that “everyone goes to heaven and looks down on the rest of us” nor do I believe we become angels or angelic bodies.
I am not sure exactly what happens when you die. But right now, I feel that when you die, you die — you go to sleep and that is all.
Okay, so that is where I am in the event of me meeting the Grim Reaper. Now you know.
Does your family know what happens to you when you die?