Georgia is very into being a princess.
She does switch between being Rapunzel, a fairy princess and a bit of fairy and a bit of a princess – she is constantly telling me her powers are attributed to her hair (I think a Samson story combined with a fairy princess complex).
I do not know a great deal about princesses. When I read through the story books lying around, princesses do appear to be very attractive young girls, who seem to suffer some hardship or another, usually which involves a wicked stepmother.
The only thing that will save them is a prince who will sweep them off and marry them.
Based on the fairy tales – a princess needs to be super attractive, have lush hair, an attractive smile, and pretty much no future aspirations of any kind.
The fact that a prince wondering through the woods takes a fancy to them, and offers to marry them on the spot, seems to be the highest point of achievement in their lives. It unfortunately also counters our constant admonishings of STRANGER-DANGER!!
I am always been a bit wary of these handsome titled men who traipse through the woods alone. I think we would call them “displaced persons” or homeless.
Why is a prince alone in the woods? Where is his retinue of staff?
If you saw a dead girl surrounded by 7 small people/dwarfs – would you reason that now is a good time to hop off your horse and wander over there to see if you can have a quick snog? Really, does that sound like a great idea?
Did he think his kiss would wake the dead? Let’s agree he has rather an inflated god complex going on, and maybe a touch of the strange, either way not attributes you want in someone you are marrying.
Cinderalla’s beau has always concerned me the most. She gets herself all dolled up, for the ball, spends the night dancing with him, midnight strikes, she dashes, she leaves her shoe, and he finds her shoe.
Prince No-Recall-of-Facial-Features-but-clearly-with-a-foot-fetish then traipses all over his kingdom with a shoe for the ladies to try on. You would think he would be able to recognise his great love – but nope shoe trying it is.
If I had danced with the prince and dropped my size six and a half shoe, he would have been able to find 4 girls in my street alone whose foot would fit my shoe.
Even when he is in the house where Cinderalla lives, and she enters the room, he still does not recognise her face, her manner, her voice. Only when her foot fits the shoe does he have a eureka moment of recognition. Weird much?
Rapunzel’s beau does not think that after climbing HER HAIR up a tower. He does not think, well this must cause her a great deal of discomfort, next time let me bring some crampons and my own rope. Or better yet, let me use my princely powers to rescue her.
Nope he just goes on climbing up the poor girls hair until Rapunzel’s step mother throws him into some thorns.
There is a great deal of emphasis on referring to little girls as “my princess” and little girls being obsesses with princesses – but what are these images and stories teaching our girls in terms of what they should aspire to?
Other than a tiara, and a wand and flouncing around in really pretty pink outfits, what are we telling them?
What is the point of being a princess, other than being pretty and waiting on your prince to come along and rescue them?
History has shown that princesses’ role was to marry well – her father who would use her in arranged marriages for his kingdom’s political gain. And once that was done, her role was to produce an heir or die trying. Princesses though living lavish lives, were going it in gilded prisons, so why do we continue to hold this ideal out to our daughters and encourage them to be “princesses?”
I would feel so much if my girls were playing lawyer-lawyer, doctor-doctor or actuary-actuary.
I wish my girls would don capes and fly around the house telling me they are super hero’s, instead of princesses having yet another stupid tea party.
Does anyone have any idea of good “character” role models for girls right now hopefully in a book and a movie?
I feel a bit overwhelmed with the Hello Kitty, Rapunzel, Princess Aurora and others of her ilk.