For the love of Boston Terriers ….



I know this is not a boston terrier blog —- but I do so love my dog, and unfortunately you will need to deal with the painful images of my dog.

I do also realise I post more pictures of my dog than my children ….

I always worry for the safety of my children ….


50 shades of …. wheel barrow

I seriously could not have given less of a fuck when the books came out.

I could give less of a shit now that they are choosing actor people for the movie.

As long as they leave David Duchovny and Robert Downey Junior alone, I could not give a wheel barrow who they choose.

Good luck with that.



Adventure Boot Camp and McDonald’s go head to head …..


Adventure Boot Camp is 4 weeks of hell.

There is not one moment of joy.  I get really excited when I get asked to grab my yoga mat and the sun has gone down, because I live in hope that I will be doing final stretches and then stand around and clap like a seal, and be allowed to go home.

I am the oldest and fattest person there.  I am last in every possible activity.

This is not a cry for help or affirmation, it is a fact.

There are girls that laugh and giggle throughout – meanwhile I am attempting to hold my bladder in and not shit in my pants.  I am wearing lycra and even in my fairly elementary understanding of sport’s wear I realise that a large lump of poop in my pants will be noticed.

It is a difficult hour – I swear and curse a great deal.  I am amazed I have an apron for a stomach that often tends to lie against my thighs —- I wish to die right there and then.

I never walk away happy.  I limp away in relief that it is over.

The endorphins do not know how to find me.  Possibly I need to do one of those location updates on my phone, maybe they would find me then.

I wore a Simple Minds t-shirt last night – concert in Cape Town 1995 – that I think was older than most girls there.  1995, they were embryos, and I was considered underweight.

I miss those days.

It is all tragic, and sad …. and makes me long for my quiet time eating a McDonalds McMuffin, my large chips and large Coke Zero.  See the problem?

Tell me again how much a gastric bypass costs … and what you need to do to qualify?

Pop over to Adventure Boot Camp and {like} the image, I think I win something.

It might be lipo-suction, and a free session at plastic surgeon …. or a stomach pump …… or a head band ….. right now I would settle for home made pasta and about 27 liters of wine.  I am too exhausted to pay attention.

True story.

Passionate about Making Families ….. Sunshine Egg Donors

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{guest post from Rikki Walsh at Sunshine Egg Donors}

So, you’ve decided to have a baby.

A HUGE decision in its own right.  Something there is no turning back from, but you want that baby, child, little person in your life.

If you are a couple, you start the conventional way – stop your pill, time your cycle and have at it. Month after month after month nothing happens, and a tiny bit of you dies each time you get a negative result.

Eventually you accept you need to talk to someone about it – find a solution, find out why it hasn’t happened ALREADY.

You make the nerve wracking appointment.

You both head off.  You do all your tests, and more tests, and then wait to see what happens. The news you never imagined you would hear arrives …….. Sorry, you have no more eggs, your reserves are gone.

Your only choice is to use an egg donor.

This news could arrive after many failed IVF cycles trying with your own eggs, or at the first test.  You could be 23 or you could be 43.

There is no way to know before you have tests and trials.

You take some time.

You accept that you need a donor, but what is your next steps?

Who do you talk to about it?

It’s never comes up in discussions with your friends or family  – what will they think, do you tell them?  So far all the “well meaning advise” you have been given is horrific and usually includes “just relax it will happen….”

You ask your Doctor and he recommends a few donor agencies, and that is where we step in.

With 10 personal donations under our own belts and having helped over a hundred couples through this process, we are well versed in the procedures to follow.

Sunshine Egg Donors are here to help with all the questions you may have.  Or if you just want to talk to someone who you will know understands what you are going through.

We have over 100 lovely active donors on our database.

We will work with you as long as it takes to find the perfect donor for you.

This is an intensely personal choice, much like choosing your partner, this is something that will be with you for the rest of your life.  At Sunshine Egg Donors we are PASSIONATE ABOUT MAKING FAMILIES.

To start with, we suggest you sit down with your partner and make a list of what is most important for you in a donor.  This could be looks, education, personality, or simply the fact she is a mom or has donated before, so you know “her” eggs work.

Perhaps a combination of them all.

There is a perfect donor out there for everyone, and we will help you to find her.  If you don’t know where to start, but just need to talk to someone to give you some guidance and assist you in taking the next step, please call us.

Together with your chosen clinic we will help to arrange a donor cycle in a time frame that suits you and go beyond that to make your already emotional journey easier.

This may means helping with accommodation near to your clinic, some relaxing tours or even acupuncture.

We keep you informed every step of the way what is happening with your donor and how she is doing on a physical and emotional level before and after egg retrieval.

Finally I will stalk you until I find out that you are pregnant and can shed a tear with you.  Then drink the glass of Champagne I am sure that you will be giving up for the next 9 months!


Rikki Walsh – Intended Parent Support at Sunshine Egg Donors

Skype: rikki.walsh | | +27 79 499 4763 | +27 21 813 9081

Interested in donating eggs?

Or interested in how we can help you make a family – contact Sunshine Egg Donors

Poetry gave me beautiful “book” mobiles ….

I saw these wonderful mobiles made from books at the Poetry Store – they are gorgeous, and when you look at them, each “element” is made from a folded book’s pages.  The mobiles are designed by the multi-talented Shaw Sisters.

SHAW SISTERS was founded in 2010 by sisters Angela Shaw of Koop Design and Janet Shaw of The Zulu Beadwork Project, both based in Durban.

We love handmade product and our vision is to identify, source and develop quality crafted goods for South African and international markets.

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{Poetry Store windows with the book mobiles}

The mobile has brown satin ribbon joining the elements and it is exquisite.

I did a giveaway a little while ago, and I was really disappointed that there were so few people/readers who wanted one.  I only got two comments – thus two entries.  I thought there would be more people who would love to take home one of these mobiles.

I received my mobiles today, and I am so thrilled, thank you very much Poetry.

The nice folks at Poetry said that both Alexandra and Amy can pop along to their nearest Poetry Store and collect a mobile each.

Alexandra and Amy, please let me know which Poetry Store is closest to you so that I can let the store manager know, and if you would let me have your full names and contact numbers so I can give them to the store managers.

Enjoy the mobiles – your book club will platz when they see them!